{"id":730,"date":"2024-01-18T15:07:21","date_gmt":"2024-01-18T15:07:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/alexandraser.com\/?p=730"},"modified":"2024-05-13T08:42:49","modified_gmt":"2024-05-13T08:42:49","slug":"cum-am-devenit-mama-si-expat-in-pandemie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/cum-am-devenit-mama-si-expat-in-pandemie\/","title":{"rendered":"\u201dUltima noapte de Lini\u0219te, \u00cent\u00eeia noapte de necunoscut\u201d. Sau \u201dCum am devenit Mam\u0103 \u0219i expat \u00een pandemie\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Nu am visat niciodat\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 mut din \u021bar\u0103 \u0219i niciodat\u0103 nu mi-am dorit neap\u0103rat s\u0103 “plec”.<\/p>\n

Nu am visat niciodat\u0103 cu ardoare s\u0103 devin mam\u0103. Sau cel pu\u021bin, nu am apucat s\u0103 \u00eemi doresc.<\/p>\n

\u00centr-un singur an s-au \u00eent\u00e2mplat am\u00e2ndou\u0103 \u0219i via\u021ba mea s-a transformat definitiv.<\/strong><\/span><\/h4>\n

Tudor, primul meu copil, s-a n\u0103scut in plin\u0103 pandemie, in August 2020. De\u0219i ideea de a avea copii, \u00een teorie, era pe lista mea de “lucruri de tr\u0103it \u00eentr-o via\u021b\u0103”, Tudor a ap\u0103rut ca o surpriz\u0103 pentru care nu m\u0103 sim\u021beam deloc preg\u0103tit\u0103.\u00a0 Se spune ca nimic nu te preg\u0103te\u0219te cu adev\u0103rat s\u0103 devii p\u0103rinte.\u00a0 Confirm.<\/p>\n

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Oric\u00e2t am \u00eencercat s\u0103 absorb toat\u0103 informa\u021bia, c\u0103r\u021bile, podcast-urile, m-am sim\u021bit absolut speriat\u0103 \u0219i total nepreg\u0103tit\u0103.<\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/h4>\n

A fost ca un salt cu para\u0219uta, pentru care m\u0103 preg\u0103team \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u00e2nd despre gravita\u021bie.<\/p>\n

Parc\u0103 a\u0219 vrea s\u0103 sar, dar \u00eemi e tare fric\u0103. Am\u00e2n, visez la momentul acela, vorbesc cu oameni care au s\u0103rit, dar parc\u0103 nu sunt gata, nu-i momentul potrivit, mereu sim\u021beam nevoia s\u0103 te m\u0103 preg\u0103tesc un pic, mereu mai sunt lucruri de f\u0103cut p\u00e2n\u0103 atunci.<\/p>\n

O dat\u0103 ap\u0103rute cele dou\u0103 liniu\u021be roz de test pozitiv (de sarcin\u0103, nu de covid – \u00eenc\u0103) eram deja “in avion pentru s\u0103ritur\u0103”. Nu-i cale de \u00eentors. Un amestec de adrenalin\u0103 dulce \u0219i fric\u0103 paralizant\u0103, \u0219i un entuziasm nebun \u00eentr-un univers necunoscut. \u0218tiam ca via\u021ba mea era foarte aproape de a se schimba total, dar habar nu aveam ce urma s\u0103 \u00eensemne asta de fapt.<\/p>\n

Diferen\u021ba e c\u0103, la saltul cu para\u0219uta, preg\u0103tit\u0103 sau nu, se termin\u0103 in scurt timp. Vie, nevatamat\u0103, extaziat\u0103 chiar. \u00cemi revin din \u0219oc \u0219i adrenalin\u0103, \u0219i gata. Sunt tot eu, cu via\u021ba mea a\u0219a cum o \u0219tiam, \u0219i\u00a0 m\u00e2ndr\u0103 de mine c\u0103 mi-am \u00eenvins o fric\u0103.<\/p>\n

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C\u00e2nd devii mam\u0103, r\u0103m\u00e2i zbur\u00e2nd tot restul vie\u021bii. <\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
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\u0218i evident c\u0103 la \u00eenceput, zbori f\u0103r\u0103 sa \u0219tii s\u0103 zbori. \u00cenve\u021bi acolo sus, uneori planezi, alteori e\u0219ti in picaj. Stai treaz\u0103 multe zile, de fric\u0103 sa nu cumva s\u0103 cazi dac\u0103 adormi. A\u021bipe\u0219ti c\u00e2te pu\u021bin, pe furate. Obose\u0219ti fizic, dar mai ales psihic.\u00a0 \u0218i e \u00eenfrico\u0219\u0103tor c\u0103 de\u0219i abia a \u00eenceput, pare imposibil de greu, din ziua 1.<\/p>\n

Apoi, dup\u0103 ni\u0219te s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni, chiar luni, \u00eencepi s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021bi ce ai de f\u0103cut. \u00cenve\u021bi s\u0103 iti ascul\u021bi instinctul. \u00cenve\u021bi s\u0103 distingi \u00een marea de sfaturi, ghiduri, cursuri, lec\u021bii, p\u0103reri, g\u00e2nduri \u0219i frici. \u00cenve\u021bi s\u0103 alegi, \u00eenve\u021bi s\u0103 ceri ajutor, \u00eencepi s\u0103 \u0219tii \u00eencotro vrei s\u0103 o apuci.<\/p>\n

Am aflat c\u0103 sunt \u00eens\u0103rcinat\u0103 pe 2 decembrie 2019. Au urmat 9 luni cu mult\u0103 team\u0103 \u0219i anxietate, pentru ca tocmai \u00eencepea Pandemia.<\/p>\n

Prea pu\u021bin m-am putut bucura, prea pu\u021bin am sim\u021bit magia de care auzisem.<\/p>\n

Eram \u00eengrozit\u0103 de tot necunoscutul \u0219i nebuloasa, \u0219i e poate singurul lucru de care acum \u00eemi pare r\u0103u. Am povestit despre asta aici.<\/p>\n

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C\u00e2nd Tudor avea 9 luni, la sf\u00e2r\u0219it de mai 2021, ne-am mutat din \u021bar\u0103<\/strong>.<\/span><\/h3>\n
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Ploua toren\u021bial, era frig \u0219i \u00eentunecat c\u00e2nd am ajuns in fa\u021ba casei.\u00a0 O vedeam prima data \u00een realitate. Era frumoas\u0103, dar mai mic\u0103 dec\u00e2t ne a\u0219teptam \u0219i parc\u0103 avea ecou. Nu aveam prea multe \u00eenc\u0103, nici m\u0103car tac\u00e2muri. \u0218i eram izola\u021bi pentru urm\u0103toarele 10 zile, \u0219i epuiza\u021bi dup\u0103 toat\u0103 ziua de drum. Am povestit mai multe despre asta, aici<\/strong><\/span>.<\/p>\n

Ce am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat?<\/p>\n

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Avem nevoie de certitudine c\u0103 s\u0103 ne sim\u021bim \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103. Mai ales c\u00e2nd \u0219i al\u021bii depind de tine. <\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n
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Mi-am adus aminte de asta \u0219i am sim\u021bit c\u00e2t\u0103 nevoie avem de “banalitatea” \u0219i “plictiseala” zilelor obi\u0219nuite. Suntem tare noroco\u0219i c\u00e2nd le avem.<\/p>\n

Lumea post pandemie a devenit \u00een c\u00e2teva feluri mai bun\u0103.\u00a0Am \u00eenceput s\u0103 privesc diferit ideea de acas\u0103<\/em>. Am c\u00e2\u0219tigat momente unice, ajutor, prezen\u021b\u0103, conectare. Dup\u0103 ani de izolare, am reinv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 ne conect\u0103m, s\u0103 ne adapt\u0103m, s\u0103 func\u021bion\u0103m. Am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat, o dat\u0103 in plus, c\u0103 <\/span>acas\u0103<\/em> nu e doar \u00eentr-un singur loc. Acas\u0103 <\/span>devine.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Iar teama, necunoscutul, incertitudinea, \u0219i schimbarea sunt dincolo de grani\u021ba zonei de confort, adic\u0103 exact locul unde \u00eencepem s\u0103 Cre\u0219tem.<\/p>\n

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Nu am visat niciodat\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 mut din \u021bar\u0103 \u0219i niciodat\u0103 nu mi-am dorit neap\u0103rat s\u0103 “plec”. Nu am visat niciodat\u0103 cu ardoare s\u0103 devin mam\u0103. Sau cel pu\u021bin, nu am apucat s\u0103 \u00eemi doresc. \u00centr-un singur an s-au \u00eent\u00e2mplat am\u00e2ndou\u0103 \u0219i via\u021ba mea s-a transformat definitiv. Tudor, primul meu copil, s-a n\u0103scut in plin\u0103 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":716,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"\n

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Nu am visat niciodat\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 mut din \u021bar\u0103 \u0219i niciodat\u0103 nu mi-am dorit neap\u0103rat s\u0103 \"plec\".<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nu am visat niciodat\u0103 cu ardoare s\u0103 devin mam\u0103. Sau cel pu\u021bin, nu am apucat s\u0103 \u00eemi doresc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00centr-un singur an s-au \u00eent\u00e2mplat am\u00e2ndou\u0103 \u0219i via\u021ba mea s-a transformat definitiv.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tudor, primul meu copil, s-a n\u0103scut in plin\u0103<\/p>\n\n\n\n

pandemie, in August 2020. De\u0219i ideea de a avea copii, \u00een teorie, era pe lista mea de \"lucruri de tr\u0103it \u00eentr-o via\u021b\u0103\", Tudor a ap\u0103rut ca o surpriz\u0103 pentru care nu m\u0103 sim\u021beam deloc preg\u0103tit\u0103.  Se spune ca nimic nu te preg\u0103te\u0219te cu adev\u0103rat s\u0103 devii p\u0103rinte.  Confirm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M-am sim\u021bit absolut speriat\u0103 \u0219i total nepreg\u0103tit\u0103<\/strong>. Oric\u00e2t am \u00eencercat, aproape obsesiv-compulsiv, s\u0103 absorb toat\u0103 \u0219tiin\u021ba, c\u0103r\u021bile, podcast-urile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nevoia de perfec\u021biune? Cu siguran\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exist\u0103 mama perfect\u0103? Da, una singur\u0103. \u0218i aceea sunt eu, pentru al meu copil, unic deopotriv\u0103. Numai eu \u0219tiu s\u0103 fiu mama lui.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A fost ca un salt cu para\u0219uta, pentru care<\/p>\n\n\n\n

m\u0103 preg\u0103team \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u00e2nd despre gravita\u021bie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Vrei s\u0103 sari, dar \u00ee\u021bi e \u0219i team\u0103. Am\u00e2ni, visezi la momentul \u0103la, vorbe\u0219ti cu oameni care au s\u0103rit, dar parc\u0103 nu e\u0219ti gata, nu-i momentul potrivit, mereu sim\u021bi nevoia s\u0103 te mai preg\u0103te\u0219ti un pic, mereu mai sunt lucruri de f\u0103cut p\u00e2n\u0103 atunci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

O dat\u0103 ap\u0103rute cele dou\u0103 liniu\u021be roz de test pozitiv (de sarcin\u0103, nu de covid - \u00eenc\u0103) eram deja \"in avion pentru s\u0103ritur\u0103\". Nu-i cale de \u00eentors. Un amestec de adrenalin\u0103 dulce \u0219i fric\u0103 paralizant\u0103, entuziasm nebun \u00eentr-un univers necunoscut. \u0218tiam ca via\u021ba mea era aproape de a se schimba total, dar habar nu aveam ce urma s\u0103 \u00eensemne asta de fapt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Diferen\u021ba e c\u0103, la saltul cu para\u0219uta, preg\u0103tit\u0103 sau nu, se termin\u0103 in scurt timp. Vie, nevatamat\u0103, extaziat\u0103 chiar. \u00ce\u021bi revii din<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0219oc \u0219i adrenalin\u0103, \u0219i gata. E\u0219ti tot tu, cu via\u021ba ta a\u0219a cum o \u0219tiai, ba chiar e\u0219ti m\u00e2ndr\u0103 de tine c\u0103 \u021bi-ai \u00eenvins o fric\u0103, ai reu\u0219it, \u0219i te sim\u021bi bine (\u0219i c\u0103 s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat, dar \u0219i c\u0103 ai sc\u0103pat). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd devii mam\u0103, r\u0103m\u00e2i zbur\u00e2nd tot restul vie\u021bii.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i evident c\u0103 la \u00eenceput, zbori f\u0103r\u0103 sa \u0219tii s\u0103 zbori. \u00cenve\u021bi acolo sus, uneori planezi, alteori e\u0219ti in picaj. Stai treaz\u0103 multe zile, de fric\u0103 sa nu cumva s\u0103 cazi dac\u0103 adormi. A\u021bipe\u0219ti c\u00e2te pu\u021bin, pe furate. Obose\u0219ti fizic, dar mai ales psihic.  \u0218i e \u00eenfrico\u0219\u0103tor c\u0103 de\u0219i abia a \u00eenceput, pare imposibil de greu, din ziua 1. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Apoi, dup\u0103 ni\u0219te s\u0103pt\u0103m\u00e2ni, chiar luni, \u00eencepi s\u0103 \u00eenve\u021bi ce ai de f\u0103cut. \u00cenve\u021bi s\u0103 iti ascul\u021bi instinctul. \u00cenve\u021bi s\u0103 distingi \u00een marea de sfaturi, ghiduri, cursuri, lec\u021bii, p\u0103reri, g\u00e2nduri \u0219i frici. \u00cenve\u021bi s\u0103 alegi, \u00eenve\u021bi s\u0103 ceri ajutor, \u00eencepi s\u0103 \u0219tii \u00eencotro vrei s\u0103 o apuci.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am aflat c\u0103 sunt \u00eens\u0103rcinat\u0103 pe 2 decembrie 2019. Au urmat 9 luni cu mult\u0103 team\u0103 \u0219i anxietate, pentru ca tocmai \u00eencepea Pandemia.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Prea pu\u021bin m-am putut bucura, prea pu\u021bin am sim\u021bit magia de care auzisem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Eram \u00eengrozit\u0103 de tot necunoscutul \u0219i nebuloasa, \u0219i e poate singurul lucru de care acum \u00eemi pare r\u0103u. Am povestit despre asta aici.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd Tudor avea 9 luni, la sf\u00e2r\u0219it de mai 2021, ne-am mutat din \u021bar\u0103<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ploua toren\u021bial, era frig \u0219i \u00eentunecat c\u00e2nd am ajuns in fa\u021ba casei.  O vedeam prima data \u00een realitate. Era frumoas\u0103, dar mai mic\u0103 dec\u00e2t ne a\u0219teptam \u0219i parc\u0103 avea ecou. Nu aveam prea multe \u00eenc\u0103, nici m\u0103car tac\u00e2muri. \u0218i eram izola\u021bi pentru urm\u0103toarele 10 zile, \u0219i epuiza\u021bi dup\u0103 toat\u0103 ziua de drum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cred c\u0103 izolarea a fost, dintre toate, cea mai ciudat\u0103 experien\u021b\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Avem nevoie de certitudine c\u0103 s\u0103 ne sim\u021bim \u00een siguran\u021b\u0103. Mai ales c\u00e2nd \u0219i al\u021bii depind de tine.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mi-am adus aminte de asta \u0219i am sim\u021bit c\u00e2t\u0103 nevoie avem de \"banalitatea\" \u0219i \"plictiseala\" zilelor obi\u0219nuite. Suntem tare noroco\u0219i c\u00e2nd le avem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A\u0219tept\u00e2nd ca lumea s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i revin\u0103 la 'normal', am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 privesc diferit c\u00e2teva lucruri, \u0219i am \u00eencercat la nivel con\u0219tient s\u0103 le aleg pe cele pozitive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lumea post pandemie a devenit \u00een c\u00e2teva feluri mai bun\u0103.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Am c\u00e2\u0219tigat ceva nepre\u021buit: Timp.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ore bune in fiecare zi, Acas\u0103. Am c\u00e2\u0219tigat momente unice, ajutor, prezen\u021b\u0103, conectare.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dup\u0103 ani de izolare, am reinv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 ne conect\u0103m. Am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat s\u0103 punem \u0219i mai<\/p>\n\n\n\n

mult\u0103 pasiune \u00een ceea ce facem, dup\u0103 ani in care nu \u0219tiam dac\u0103 vreodat\u0103 lumea va mai fi ca \u00eenainte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat, o dat\u0103 in plus, c\u0103 \"acas\u0103\" nu e doar \u00eentr-un singur loc. Acas\u0103 devine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0218i c\u0103 teama, necunoscutul, incertitudinea, schimbarea sunt dincolo de grani\u021ba zonei de confort, adic\u0103 exact locul unde \u00eencepem s\u0103 Cre\u0219tem.<\/p>\n","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-730","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/730","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=730"}],"version-history":[{"count":25,"href":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/730\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":826,"href":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/730\/revisions\/826"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/716"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=730"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=730"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/alexandraser.com\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=730"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}